January 30, 2002
volume 13, no. 18

Four ways to love, but only one way to truly love!
        "We must love persons. You may love persons in one of four ways. You may love them with the utilitarian love; you may love them with a romantic love; you may love them with a democratic love; or you may love with a Divine love.

        To love someone with a utilitarian love is to love him because he is useful to you. "He can get it for you wholesale", or as I overheard someone say the other day, "You've been in New York three weeks and still buy retail?" Utilitarian love is not a very high kind of love: "Sure, let's visit the Jones, they always serve the best Scotch."

        Romantic love is the love we have for someone simply because of the pleasure that particular person gives. This is often the basis of modern marriages, in which a person does not love another person but the pleasure which the other person occasions. Such people are not in love with persons; they are in love with an experience. When the experience grows stale, then love disappears.

        Democratic love is based on the equality of all persons. Our democracy is based on the idea that everyone, independent of his religion or color or race, is entitled to all the advantages of our government and equal rights under the Constitution.

        We love persons divinely when we recognize the Divine Image in their souls, that they are made in the image and likeness of God and are either real or potential children of God through grace. Our Blessed Lord gave the commandment, 'Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with the love of thy whole heart, and thy whole soul, and thy whole mind, and thy whole strength.' This is the first commandment, and the second, its like, is this: 'Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.' The present tendency is to isolate the second commandment from the first; to speak of the 'brotherhood of man' without the 'Fatherhood of God.' It is a terrible thing for a man not to know his own father. Will they make humanity a brood of illegitimate children?

        Take the second commandment, 'Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.' Notice that Our Blessed Lord said, 'LOVE thy neighbor'; He does not say, 'Tolerate thy neighbor.' He also called it a commandment. 'A new commandment I give.' There is a world of difference between loving and liking. Liking is the emotion; loving is in the will. Liking is not subject completely to our control, but love can be commanded. Liking is a kind of reaction like a hiccough; loving is a decision or a resolution. We cannot like everyone, but we can love everyone."

January 30, 2002
volume 13, no. 18
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