February 25-27, 2000
volume 11, no. 40

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    "Getting to the Heart of the Matter" is what Sister Mary Lucy Astuto pinpoints in every issue when she takes a common sense approach to living our faith with her practical columns.

    This weekend Sister questions how we can be suckered into such a mockery of the Sacrament of Matrimony by the ratings shill of a program such as that travesty "Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire" that garnered boffo ratings for the champion network of sleaze - Fox. Though Sister expresses admiration for the chosen bride, we have to also ask if Darva Conger truly had the values she expresses or integrity would she have allowed herself to be drawn into the foray? Consider what the groom-who-wished-to-be and who she rejected - Rick Rockwell said, "I learned through all this to be careful what you wish for, you may get it." Sister wraps it up by emphasizing the need to keep the sacrament holy and sacred. Television programs like that never will as she points out in her column this weekend, Who wants to marry who?

    Her column provides effective, vital insights into our faith and ways of fulfilling God's Will every day in every way. You can visit Sr. Lucy at her web site for Heart of Mary Ministry at http://www .heartofmaryministry. com or you can reach her at Srmarylucy by e-mail.

        Millions watched the show. Fifty beautiful women were contestants on a program "Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire?" When I heard about the program (I did not see it), I shook my head in disbelief. The entertainment business had brought itself to a new low. "I can't believe how stupid people can be!" I said outloud to myself.

        In first grade I learned that love is based on knowledge. How, then, could someone marry a person he or she had never met? How could anyone marry someone he or she hardly knew? How could anyone marry someone he or she did not really love?

        A wise old Jesuit once said to me: "A man marries for lust; a woman for security!" If the statement is true, I could understand why people could be foolish enough to marry on a TV program such as the one mentioned. As the groom selected the bride of his choice (the bride had no chance for choosing), I noticed (on the replays) that she looked shocked and nervous. On "Good Morning, America", the bride was interviewed. She mentioned that she never dreamed she would be chosen and that she entered the contest for the vacation promised to the contestants in Las Vegas and for time away from her stressful job as an emergency room nurse. Actually, listening to her explanation, I came to respect and admire her.

        She confessed that she had made a mistake in entering such a contest. She said that legally she was married, but she did not believe in her heart that she was married before God. She said she was embarrassed to be kissed by the groom on stage, as she did not KNOW him. She wished he would have given her a gentle kiss on the cheek, instead, as they had just met.

        Perhaps, the groom had made one of the best choices that he could have made. I really think the bride reflected integrity and honesty. Why did she go through with the onstage wedding? She claimed that being on TV; being onstage; knowing that the producers had spent umpteen bucks (my words) had produced a pressure, that was incredible. She really didn't know what else to do. All of the women had signed agreements to divorce, if they were not happy with the "marriage." The bride will seek a legal divorce.

        I, personally, hope the whole program will be divorced from television. It's a disaster for producers to think they can "arrange" marriages based on money or sex without knowledge and love.

        Would some people marry just for money or sex? I'm sure there would be those who would, but I am very glad this bride saw through the sham and stupidity, albeit awhile late.

        Let us pray every day that true wisdom would reign among us. Human beings have dignity given by God. It is evil to degrade that nature. It is Godly to raise it to its noblest heights.

        God bless you!


February 25-27, 2000
volume 11, no. 40

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