Reconciliation is attained when there is an act of forgiveness on the part of the one hurt, and the acceptance of forgiveness on the part of one having done the hurting. For true reconciliation to be accomplished, one must forgive with one's whole heart. True reconciliation cannot be achieved if one says, "I forgive you, but I will never forget what you did to me." Our forgiveness or accepting forgiveness must be patterned after God's. He never remembers our hurts after He has forgiven us. It can be noted that in God's case, He never has to accept forgiveness from us because it is against His very nature to hurt anyone.
The price of reconciliation is very high. It needs that all pride must be squeezed out of each heart. No reconciliation is possible when one refuses to find guilt in one's behavior. In today's world when there is the craze to rationalize in order to justify oneself for any and every action, reconciliation is not even sought after. Anger and hatred surface as a result. It is no wonder that we have families and nations torn apart. Prayer with the heart is a must! Without it, no one can find humility enough to apologize and ask for forgiveness either from God, from neighbor, or even from self.
Special graces are needed from God for reconciliation, graces which cannot be received unless we have a heart to Heart relationship with Him. Yes, the price of reconciliation is very high, but we only get what we pay for. If we wish to live a life of peace and joy, the highest quality of life known to God and man, we must be ready to humble ourselves before God and our fellowman at any price. Reconciliation is that experience of heart which the world today needs more than ever!
Those of us of the Fold, those of us who claim to be Mary's children, have every grace available to us, most certainly, the grace of total reconciliation. How Our Lady pleads for reconciliations amongst all of her children! It is no wonder that we hear of her apparitions beginning to come to an end. There is nothing else she can do. She has most assuredly outdone herself in our day. Let us all fulfill what she is asking and be reconciled with one another.